Your care home stories have helped make change happen

A bit of both, wavechange – we’re always sniffing out people’s stories wherever we can find them, they are just so powerful when communicating why the issues we campaign on matter, and provide such critical evidence!

Thanks Neena. It’s good to know. If and when we need to live in a care home we might no longer be in a fit state to fight for our rights if we are exploited.

I agree basically with you but not everyone has had the opportunity to buy their own house or save. I am 70 have worked all my life, never owed money, but never been on holiday, never had a house, never ever seemed to have enough coming in other than the essentials, bills, rent, food. Clothes secondhand usually. No credit cards. I wish it could have been different and I had something of value to pay for any care I may need in the future but I don’t so there it is.

I can see it from your point of view and sympathise, however for people in your situation the government should support you and pay for your fees. What is happening is that those who have money through there own efforts are being overcharged and penalised to cover the shortfall of funds and this is not fair.

My sister will be seventy this year. She worked for 30 years and didn’t spend much as she was living with her parents. Now that she is in a care home, she is, or at least was, when she went in, the only person paying for her care. It is a great place, she is settled and happy and I am pleased that she is content. It just seems strange that the only person paying is someone with Downs syndrome.

It seems we were very fortunate. When my mam died we were only charged till the day she died. Her care was part county council funded and part privately funded. I wonder if that made a difference? We also claimed restitution for the care she paid for when it should have been classed a “nursing care”.

Totally agree.
Privatisation is not the best way forward. They should never have sold of council owned homes and kept it in house.
Where they had control.

I agree with the principle of state run homes but some years ago when I was looking for a care home for my mother the government run state homes were appalling. They were overcrowded and there appeared to be no activities on offer. The old folk therein just sat around all day until someone took them off for a meal, or bed. I visited more than six such care homes and decided that they were totally unsuitable for my mother. As a result I chose a privately run home which had kind staff and a
pleasant atmosphere. The cost was exorbitant but having sold her previous home
I was able to afford the fees. She remained in that home for over 10 years until she died.

Totally agree with your comments.
I am an ex registered nurse.
Homes need to be more regulated reference how they deal with finance and what people pay.
My mother had been in care since 2006. Has spent 300k+
Sadly she passed away 2weeks ago and her estate now has to pay 2weeks of fees after her demise.
I am not happy with this at all.
Older people are being ripped off.
I realise care costs and worked in a nursing profession for 22 years.
Sadly care has been tendered out by these councils in the community too.
the cost and hourly rates are ridiculous and unaffordable to poorer and middle class families.
Every company has to make a profit to survive but most of these key workers giving care are on the national wage.
There are so many issues that need addressing by this government but no body feels the need to do so.
Every government buries there head in the sand.

This has arrived on my email was it directed at me as I do not recall doing something wrong?

This has arrived on my email was it directed at me as I do not recall doing something wrong?

Jason if you are officially a tenant or otherwise in your mothers house they cannot evict you while you are alive even though they slyly have applied for POA . What you should have done is apply for Everlasting POA which overrules a normal one . Its not easy contesting the Social Work Dept. as courts are inclined to take their view on matters like this you can appeal against it and ask for evidence that “you have been stealing from your mum. Its rich coming from them I have a long list of social workers who steal from OAP,s and an even longer newspaper reporting of them doing so. Day in -day out somewhere in the UK a social worker steals from John o, Groats to Lands End , the Glasgow newspapers locally have many cases . What they can do is put a lien on it but it requires her signing documents first. Are you an official carer Jason ? I am, its the first thing I did and made it quite clear to the SWD that, no way was I signing anything giving over any legal rights to our home , in any case both my wife and myself are co-owners all legal and above board so I couldn’t be “booted “out the house . Its always the case with social workers that the first coercive words they try to talk into a wife or female partner is- does he hit or abuse you ? Two weeks ago my wife tried to stand on her feet but collapsed on the floor hitting her head and causing a cut on her forehead, the police called and the ambulance service who,s first words to her —well you can guess after she said it was because of non attention from her GP practice it was all, “sweetness and light ” from the police I pointed out 19 years of looking after my wife and you are going to handcuff me ? she refused to go to hospital as she hates hospitals . The police put her down as a “vulnerable person ” and called the SWD who came racing out and asked —-thats right – did he hit you ?when I went into the room I was very angry and said you think I would hit my own wife ? and much more and I said I dont like social workers even though one of my aunts was one and she was convicted of possession. They did though get the GP into action and my wife,s legs were taken care of by nurses but trust them – no chance . my wife refused to be taken to hospital as she was judged to be badly anemic and needed hospital injections due to her 25 % kidney function something I didn’t know was a side-effect of very bad kidney function. Its a bad day when Males are automatically blamed for things they are NOT guilty of and shows to me the present state of society where males “dont count “.